We all have lost a loved one, one way or the other. It can be a family member or your friend or even your partner. The loss may be through death, separation even your loved one moving away from you. Such loss can be traumatising such that some people can have a nervous breakdown. Today i want to share with you my own experience of grief. Must say it is not easy to get over the loss of your loved one. In my case i lost a father when i was about 14 years by then i was only a teenager and you know how much it is difficult to understand what is going on at first i though nothing will change considering that i had a mother who loved me dearly. What i didn't realise was that the pain of loosing my dad was still buried inside me and i never took time to heal from the lose now i see it in my failure to commit fully to my partner i always have the feeling that if i commit then i will be a target of heart break. Only now is it clear to me that i didn't deal with my fathers loss and now its time to let go. While i deal with my loss i would like to share the some tips on how am managing to deal with my loss- The first step to healing is accepting that it has happened and there is nothing you can do about it. Most of the times we turn refuse to accept that the loss has taken place an example is that of a lady whose husband died before the husband death every morning she would lay her husband cloths on the bed while he was in the shower so that when he is done showering he would find the clothes on the bed already arranged for him. After the death of the husband she continued the process. It is good to keep the memories but it doesn't mean you should build a shrine around your loss accpt that it has happened and move on
- Second step is to find something else to do which will live your mind occupied instead of thinking of what you have lost. For example you can start on a new hobby maybe you can join dancs lessons or whatever you are interested in.
At the end of the grief is natural give your self time to grief then allow your yelf to heal well. Never feel guity about it for you have all the right to be sad
